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I Want To Be An IDIOT! – Noushah Arshad


Are You Really What Someone Wanted You To Be? Or What You Should Be?

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By: Noushah Arshad

Last evening, I was reading a book when there was a knock at the door. I opened the door and there was my friend, standing and smiling. She came in and and told me that she had brought a movie and she is planning to watch it with me. The movie was 3 Idiots. . . We made a cup of tea for ourselves and started watching it. We watched it with thousands of thoughts flowing in our minds and many feelings returning to our hearts. At certain points we shared laughters and sometimes noticed tears in eachother’s eyes but we never spoke to eachother till the movie finished. At the end, we kept silent for few moments. My friend broke the silence and told me something worth sharing. You can read her story in her own words.

“You know, I’ve always done what my parents wanted me to do. I’ve always been what they wanted me to be and this has made my journey of discovering me more difficult. Since I was a little girl, I’ve been listening to my mom saying, “Meri beti bari ho kar doctor banay gi.” I heard this sentence so many times that it was tuned in me. I never had a chance to think what I wanted for myself. I just thought that I have to be a doctor and make my mom proud of it. She kept on telling me to get extraordinary marks in matric bcz she wanted me to be a shinning student … and guess what? I got 88% marks in matric and my parents were proud of their daughter. They never asked me what I wanted to study further. They just told me that now you have to work harder in FSc (Pre Medical). I said,”Yes”, bowed my head and forgot everything except books and my parent’s dreams. Two years passed by and I was preparing for Medical College Admission Test (MCAT) after clearing Intermediate with exceptional marks. It was here that my life took me to a new path … I couldn’t make it … I was unable to achieve what was tuned in my mind, body and soul. I was broken, but no one thought of what I was going through. There was another order,” Stay home for one year, prepare for the test and try again.” It was the hardest time for me.I never wanted to stay at home. I wanted to move on. I was reluctant to stay but I had no choice.

In that one year, my parents used to be out for jobs, my siblings out for school and tutions and I was all alone at home. That was the time when I met myself, in the silence of my room.I realized who I am and what I want to be. I was introduced to a girl who loved drawing and reading books. The girl inside me was interested in photography, and in writing about life and its phases. She even loved to play, to laugh and enjoy every blessing of Almighty Allah. She loved birds and most of all she had a world of her own. There was so much inside me and I wished to be that girl. She was such a blessed soul and I was nothing compared to her.

Since then I have been trying to be the girl that’s inside me. I was in love with her. I wanted to be an idiot like her. I wished to live my life the way I wanted it to be and I decided that I will take hold of my life as much as I can. First time in my life when I expressed myself in deciding my career was at masters level when I opted for studying business instead of science. And now, that I have completed my masters I am still learning to be myself. I have started writing whatever I want to express in words, I draw sometimes but I am still learning to LIVE my life. I am far away from my destination, but I feel as discovering yourself is a never ending path.

I am getting some sunshine, I am getting some rain. This life is the only chance I have and I’m growing up … I wish to be a complete idiot one day and cherish every single moment of my life.”

49 comments

  1. @Arshad: It happened with us but at least we can try not to repeat it with the next generation. Agar jaan lene kay baad bhi koi sabaq na seekha tau kya hasil hua … options waqt daita hay. Problem starts when parents get over protective for the secure future of their children without realizing that they are creating hindrence instead of providing oppertunities for them.

  2. its an advice 4 our parents. if we don’t fulfill their dreams, they consider us disobedient but in fact we should do something special 4 ourselves and 4 our parents but according 2 our TASTE AND INTEREST.. my past story is also like that…but i just say at the end: LET IT GO

  3. ya it is story of all pakistani non directional students…..the same was happened with us …the same we are going to repeat with our children as we have not any other option..

  4. Bruce remember one thing only you can explore yourself..no one can tell you whats u want…just spend sometime with yourself n u can easily find who r u in actual?

  5. We should have rites on our dreams n our own life…

  6. may your dua come true for all of us

  7. I wonder why we people hesitate to discover ourself…. unless v r doomed by regret…. or are lonely and disappointed…. am doin enng but i dont know y am doin.. it can anyone help me discovering who i really am… and am sure wat i pretend 2 b is not who i am……………

  8. I’ll just rephrase words of Mr. Arif Jamil as I agree with him completely … Yes, Parents are there to decide what is best for their children. And while taking decisions for them it would be better if they go for polishing those talents that their child has, rather than imposing their own choices on them … Why not to develop a child with complete personality instead of creating another being with broken dreams and crushed thoughts.

  9. I wonder why we people hesitate to discover ourself…. unless v r doomed by regret…. or are lonely and disappointed…. am doin enng but i dont know y am doin.. it can anyone help me discovering who i really am… and am sure wat i pretend 2 b is not who i am……………

  10. I’ll just rephrase words of Mr. Arif Jamil as I agree with him completely … Yes, Parents are there to decide what is best for their children. And while taking decisions for them it would be better if they go for polishing those talents that their child has, rather than imposing their own choices on them … Why not to develop a child with complete personality instead of creating another being with broken dreams and crushed thoughts.

  11. mam im very very new reader of your articles but they inspire me alots please keep wrting like this and i will try to convey your messages of your articles all over the world as iam just 24 and working on merchant vessels and roaming around the world and interact with mutinational peoples mostly all the times …..thanks for such a great articles.

  12. in response to Anas:hmm u r absolutely right Anas.same case with me.don’t know if m doin what i want to do actually.y people around us don’t even take a single glimpse of our hearts n consider for a moment tht what WE WANT TO DO??????!!!!!m doin pre-medical but i m not sure if m fully devoted to this field or not.i told everybdy tht i could do better in some other field bt nobdy listened.now i don’t know what i’ll do but it’s true tht my heart is lost somewhere.these r not just words,these r my pure feelings which m writing today for the first time ever in my life.i felt like to write here when i saw ur post

  13. mam im very very new reader of your articles but they inspire me alots please keep wrting like this and i will try to convey your messages of your articles all over the world as iam just 24 and working on merchant vessels and roaming around the world and interact with mutinational peoples mostly all the times …..thanks for such a great articles.

  14. And I think one should watch movies, read books and be ready to learn and change otherwise there is no point. Book and purposeful movies would be useless.
    One should remember that” the day we stop learning is the day we die”
    We have so much to learn, hate off to Amir khan and Co and Farah to make us all talk about it.
    I would love to be an Idiot personally

  15. in response to Anas:hmm u r absolutely right Anas.same case with me.don’t know if m doin what i want to do actually.y people around us don’t even take a single glimpse of our hearts n consider for a moment tht what WE WANT TO DO??????!!!!!m doin pre-medical but i m not sure if m fully devoted to this field or not.i told everybdy tht i could do better in some other field bt nobdy listened.now i don’t know what i’ll do but it’s true tht my heart is lost somewhere.these r not just words,these r my pure feelings which m writing today for the first time ever in my life.i felt like to write here when i saw ur post

  16. I wonder why we people hesitate to discover ourself…. unless v r doomed by regret…. or are lonely and disappointed…. am doin enng but i dont know y am doin.. it can anyone help me discovering who i really am… and am sure wat i pretend 2 b is not who i am……………

  17. Hey nice website and great work

  18. I’ll just rephrase words of Mr. Arif Jamil as I agree with him completely … Yes, Parents are there to decide what is best for their children. And while taking decisions for them it would be better if they go for polishing those talents that their child has, rather than imposing their own choices on them … Why not to develop a child with complete personality instead of creating another being with broken dreams and crushed thoughts.

  19. I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU SIR

  20. really sorry for “HATE OFF” I wanted to say “HAT OFF”
    “Chapeau” in French

  21. And I think one should watch movies, read books and be ready to learn and change otherwise there is no point. Book and purposeful movies would be useless.
    One should remember that” the day we stop learning is the day we die”
    We have so much to learn, hate off to Amir khan and Co and Farah to make us all talk about it.
    I would love to be an Idiot personally

  22. good website
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  23. Dear Asma, I partially agree with you. yes parents are more experienced and want their children to be the best n all that. But what if the kids have some other talent. For example I would love to see mines to become scientists, journalists or politicians i will try my best to explain them that our country and society are in need but I will never impose my choices. i’ll try to see what they really r good at or what makes them happy. with my wife we will try to help them in their goals even if it sounds impossible to the whole world.

    I think we must start to learn how to dose the religion and respect of elders etc in our lives. Because overdose of any thing is dangerous and I’m afraid a very very high percentage of us is unable to find that dose.

  24. i myself choose my own path n its ALLAH’S blessings,n his Reham on me that i m successful..this all becoz of my ALLAH and secondly becoz of my parents..but i feel i didnt fullfill the desire of my parents, waisy b its the desire of GOD to do wot ur parents say to u…
    do wot ur parents say to u..n make that thing ur desire..becoz hamaray parents ka hm pay bht haq hai jo hamaray ilawa koi ada nai kr sakta…

    watch the movies n read the buks just to improve ur thinking but please not to change urself n ur thinking..

  25. well I would like to share that parents have seen the world their feelings and efforts are always sincere, true and it’s a man’s nature that he like the easy stuff/work in comparison to hard one…
    when we are in 8th grade(after that we have to choose our path of study) we cant think well that wot is in our favor and there should be the one who should guide us show us the right path so that we could choose wot is best for us..
    dont blame the parents becoz they always wants the best in their son/daughter..

  26. beautifully written…

  27. aik bat kahun gi jo is article pay aik comment parh k meray zehen men aai k agar hum yeh dekhen gay k dariya kitna bhara hua hai to bechara khali hissa (dariya ka) to khali ka khali hi reh jaai ga or hum wohi lakeer k faqeer.mera maqsid point out karna nahi hai sirf aik soch ko share kia hai

  28. Thanks Farah 🙂

  29. Wow! Beautiful words Fatemah!

  30. Thanks Sir
    it’s my honour that someone liked my feelings here

  31. well said Fatemah
    Mere khyal se jab koi bhi ye lines padhega usay aap ki aap ke feelings in alfaaz se tapakte nazar ayenge.
    aur ghaltions ki fikr naheen karni chahye ye bhi us “sunshine aur air ” ka hissa hain jo hum sab ko chahiye.

    i’m with u.

  32. m sorry there r some mistakes in the former comment i’ve snt.that’s not a comment actually,jab men nay wo story parhi to mery dil men jo kuch aaya wo men nay likh dia
    proof reading na karnay ki waja say bht jaga ghaltian ho gain

  33. I NEED SOME SUNSHINE
    I NEED SOME RAIN
    I NEED TO GO BEYOND THE STARS
    I NEED TO REST IN HEAVENS
    I NEED TO BE MYSELF
    I NEED TO TO TOUCH MY SOUL
    I NEED TO BE WHAT I WANT TO
    I NEEDT TO LIVE HUNDREDS PF LIVES
    I NEED SOME SUNSHINEI NEED SOMERAIN
    I NEED A BONFIRE ON A SNOWY MOUNTAIN
    I NEED TO LEAD A LIFE,I WANT TO BE ME
    I NEED SOME PEARLS BY DIVING
    DIVING DEEP IN THE SEA
    THE SEA OF THOUGHTS
    SEA OF MY THOUGHTS
    I NEED SOME SUNSHINE
    I NEED SOME RAIN
    BUT NO ONE LET ME
    NO ONE
    BUT I HOPE SOMEDAY I’LL LEAD THE LIFE I WANT TO LIVE

  34. Assalam-o-alaikum.. mujhe ye website bohot pasand ai q k aj kal k dor main jahan itni mehngai hai. aj kal ek normal book kharidna bhi bohot mushkil hai. but is website ki badolat novels or books parhny k shokeen hazrat asani se koi bhi book download kar k parh sakty hain…

  35. @kiran abbasi

    Very well said!

  36. im a bit late but wants to say a little about 3 idiots,what i love about the movie is its theme and that is,” don’t fix your goals and run for that but learn n enjoy from the struggle you are putting to achieve the goal. success or failure is nothing but the learning is everything”.

  37. thanx a lot. keep doing ur good work.

  38. @Arif Jameel

    It would be my pleasure if you include this article in ur next edition. 🙂
    Thanks.

  39. very well written lines, when I saw this movie i was sure this was a REAL one. The one that leaves it’s mark on ur mind the one that will change u as a person.
    I’m launching a weekly news paper named SAVERA in FRANCE and SPAIN and am really hopeful to extend it to HOLLAND, Germany, Denmark, Belgium, England and at last Dubai.
    Our aim is not to generate any income out of it but really want to do some thing like “3 idiots” on our level of sources.
    And would really like to add your article to our next edition.

    Plz tell me what u think..

    • @ Arif Jameel

      I am admin of this site… I think Farah Ahmed’s Articles are Worth publishing… if think I can talk to Farah Ahmed and get permission for her articles published here for your newspaper.. we can start from here.. but as being IBITIANS original writer, article will be published here too, as well!

  40. aslamoalkum well mera khyal hai k film was a very good one and it refers to a problem lekin sometimes we are just carried away by such good films i think if parents want their child to b somthing they should induce a change in them unnoticable is tarah un ki khwahish bachey ki personalit bun jaye its true k dhons sey zabardasti insan kuch nahi karsakta us ki fitrat hai more important thing to me is flaws in our educational system which create divisions in our society same things were repeated in baba ji(ashfaq ahmad sb)`s work

  41. Thanks to all those who have read this article so far and got time to leave a comment about it. I respect all the views shared here as they provide me a chance to improve my writings and thoughts as well.

    @ Ghouri
    Sure! You can forward this to your parents at your own risk! :p

  42. @ Rahim

    This is not Na-Shukri… Parents obv Bachon ke liye achha sochte hain lekin baat yeh hai career sirf paisay yah post se evaluate nahi kia ja sakta, hum main se patah nahi kitne best artist, players, poets, intellectuals, actors hote hain and they are doing what they shouldn’t do… Maan baap hamesha dil ki awaz nahi suntay… I think aik Achha poet behtar hota hai aik Buray Dr. se !!!

  43. @ Farah…

    Farah in recent times you have written original and beautiful things, but this I think your best work so far… All can say Dil se Jo Baat Nikalti Hai Asar Rakhti hai…

    Kaheen na kaheen is main hum sab ki kahani hai… Can we forward this to our parents?

  44. In my point of view……… i don’t know, y we got inspired with such thng, which we don’t have or we can’t do.
    Basically we “human being” r so unthankful.
    Farah’s frnd should b thnkfull for her parents that they given her a good opportunity to study n she got good marks. She doesn’t involved in any un-ethecal activity only because of being busy in studies. butttt….. anywayzz…. i want to quote here a sentense of Ashfaq Ahmed “Ham ko ye nai dekhna chaye k drya kitna khali hay.. ham ko ye dekhna chahye k darya kitna bhara hua hay”
    That’s the way of thinking of successfull peoples….
    anywayzzzz………

  45. Mine Dearest, Salam,
    This life is very short, only 45 seconds as compared to one day of hereafter life =50,000
    years of this world, we need good deeds as much as possible,
    We are wayfarer here in this world, That is Why Allah gives us infinity Blessings & bounties.:)

  46. Beautifully Written.
    The Writer should come up with more of her original writings like these.
    Best Regards.

  47. when i was readng thx story…..i totaly thought about myslf….bt everyone cant get his destinatn….bcoz of his inner fear.well ALLAH bless u……:)

  48. Farah has shared a story that happens to be with every other person. It is very important to get some time in your solitude and explore thy self and thy deimensions before you randomly opt something for you or for your any responsibilty.
    well writeen 🙂

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